Let me start out by saying no one is saying be alone forever. When coming out of a relationship like this especially, we have to heal and learn from it so that we do not repeat it and go through the same thing again. We have to heal from the abuse. We have to learn what parts of us ignored any red flags and our intuition letting us know something wasn’t quite right. That part of us needs to heal as well. We have to find out who we are after the trauma. For most, we have to learn to love ourselves and remember we are enough, no need to settle! Once is more than enough for anyone. So please heal before you deal. And learn, learn, learn!
Love and infatuation are both intense emotions that one feels for another person. Infatuation is often misinterpreted as Love. But the two feelings differ in their actuality of love, intensity and final outcome.
Infatuation – Infatuation is basically an affection or deep admiration over someone’s appearance or characteristics or sometimes both. An example of infatuation is crush – it can be one sided. The image in person’s mind can be quite different than the true picture.
Infatuation is temporary in life and goes off after some period. It is reckless commitment to satisfy one’s all consuming lust. It takes off fast and furious like a spark in dry grass, burns out quickly and can leave feelings of emptiness. Infatuation is delusional, not real.
Love – ❤️ Love, on the other hand, is the most powerful emotion known by humankind. It is mutual, extreme feeling build on the foundation of trust where you are wiling to do anything for the person you love, no matter how painful.
Love is a gradual process and happens over time. It is unconditional and real. Love is faithfulness, loyalty, confidence, willingness to make sacrifices for another. Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person’s opinion a chance. Requires a lot of selflessness. It will deepen with the passage of time.
So there is no such thing as “Love at first sight”. With passing time you will get to know weather it is love, lust or just Infatuation. Self love is the best way to attract true love. Love yourself with all your heart, for who you are and for who you are not. If you don’t have love for yourself, you can’t expect to get it from someone else. True love allows you to be yourself and never ask you to change. True love is not about finding your completeness in another person but rather about sharing your completeness with them fully in order to grow and expand more and more each day.
Do share your thoughts about Love vs. Infatuation!
Allow your criticism We always avoid if people criticise us. I learned rather avoiding criticism, allow people to criticise your loopholes, weaknesses and negative points. Do honest self analysis, find out if this criticism is really right??? If yes, just find out the ways to overcome all your negative and weak points and trust me result will be amazing and great. Even negetive criticism have positive aspects in life. You can learn to art of avoidance, maintaining your calm or even speaking up against it. All it teaches us to be better version of us and develop us to deal with different personalities in life. Remember life is extremely beautiful only with struggles, hard work and pain, without these life is really tasteless.
*WISDOM for LIFE
👉 *”Never fight a man under GRACE because the GRACE he carries will DISGRACE you”.
👉 *”The death of a lion cannot be announced by a goat”.
👉 *”The future belongs to the Risk takers, Not the Comfort seekers”.
👉 *”The words of the elders do not lock all the doors; they leave the right door open”.
👉 *”A deaf husband and a blind wife are always a happy couple”.
👉 *”Let not what you cannot do tear you from what you can do”.
👉 *“A child who asks questions will not become a fool”.
👉 *”The first person you think of in the morning, or last person you think of at night, is either the cause of your happiness or your pain”.
👉 *”Be careful who you trust! Even Salt and Sugar are both white”.
👉 *“To Make A Difference In Someone’s Life, You Don’t Have To Be Brilliant, Rich, Beautiful, Or Perfect. You Just Have To Care”.
👉 *”Kindness is like butter, it works best when you spread it around”.
👉 *”The walls don’t only have ears; they can see too”.
👉 *”Don’t be easily deceived by appearances. Even the leopard looks beautiful but has a bad heart”.
👉 *”It appears that everybody is a nobody trying to become somebody”
👉 *”Sometimes you have to play the role of a fool to fool the fools who think they are fooling you”.
👉 *“A girl may never get married if she waits for the “PERFECT MAN”.
👉 *”One Man’s food is every other man’s food, just because one fellow refuses to eat it doesn’t make it poison”.
👉 *“If you have a mother, there is nowhere you are likely to go where her prayers have not already been”.
👉 *”The only person that reads the terms & conditions is the one who writes it”.
👉 *“No matter how long the night, the day is sure to come”.
👉 *“A woman’s Greatest Perfume is the Fragrance of her Man’s SUCCESS”.
👉 *“A wise person knows that there is something to be learned from everyone”.
👉 *“It requires wisdom to understand wisdom; the music is nothing if the audience is deaf”.
👉 *”No matter how rich you are, you cannot pay for your sins”.
👉 *”This is what happens with those threatened by your success. First they try to ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win”.
👉 *Give them a chair if they can’t stand your Success”.
👉 *”Be careful about the rumors you hear about a lady, it either comes from a man who can’t have her or a lady who can’t compete with her”.
Stop searching for others to keep you distracted from what’s really important. Allow others to enter your heart and your mind, but don’t force anything which is just not there. It will never be there.
Be alone. Seriously. You don’t have a single clue what it’s like to be lonely. You should. You know those people who get full nights of sleep? They sleep alone or they are blessed with a non-snoring partner. Isn’t that cool enough?
Tired? Stay in. Fridays are all yours. And your wallet will thank you later.
Stop complaining about what you have to do. Be positive and take what you can from every opportunity. I know early mornings are rough, but I promise if you cut down on the late nights, it will make all the differences. Plus, you’re not too terrible at your job, I suppose.
Learn to let go. Let it go. Let him go. Let her go. Let every little thing or person that no longer serves you. Let them go.
If it hurts, good. But, you’ll be fine. You always are.
Continue to search, but don’t keep digging where you’re not welcome. Your time will come for lots of things. But, I promise, you won’t find what you’re looking for in someone else’s backyard.
Stop questioning EVERYTHING. Don’t ask “why? Ask “why not? But, obviously use your best judgement. You know wrong from right (usually). Choose what’s right, even if it doesn’t seem as fun. Trust me, you won’t be sorry.
When you are sorry, say so. But, stop apologizing to yourself.
You have nothing to be sorry for, other than the mere fact that you rock.
Have a good cry just because you can. P.S.Something is always not better than nothing.