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Your happiness matters✌🏻❤️

Sometimes people exist just for you to have a good time with and then move on from. And once you can accept that, it makes everything a lot easier, because a lot of happiness stems from managing expectations. The reason we get hurt so much is because we have a good time with someone and then we obsess waiting for them to text us, wanting to see them again, stalking them, picturing our life with them and then when we find out they don’t want exactly what we do, we’re crushed. But really, they don’t owe us a future or anything at all, they don’t even owe us a text the next day. And I’ve come to accept that sometimes a good time can just be a good time, without the promise of a future, and that’s fine.

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~SiLeNt PeN

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You are magnificent ✨💜

I hope you never spend restless nights wondering if you are enough for someone. Honestly, you are enough and you are magnificent. You are enough for the right people, the ones who matter.

The ones who are going to stick around but you deserve to know that some people aren’t going to stick around and that is okay. That is no indicator of your worth as a human being. It just means their story and your story weren’t meant to have the same set of pages.

You will find people who will see your light and realize that it matches their’s. Those people will be ready to share some pages with you. So open your book and let the right people in. Stop letting people who weren’t meant to have a chapter let you keep your book closed. You are enough for the right people. You are worthy and you are magnificent.

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~SiLeNt PeN

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Healing is a process ☘️

Learn how to heal

Let me start out by saying no one is saying be alone forever. When coming out of a relationship like this especially, we have to heal and learn from it so that we do not repeat it and go through the same thing again. We have to heal from the abuse. We have to learn what parts of us ignored any red flags and our intuition letting us know something wasn’t quite right. That part of us needs to heal as well. We have to find out who we are after the trauma. For most, we have to learn to love ourselves and remember we are enough, no need to settle! Once is more than enough for anyone. So please heal before you deal. And learn, learn, learn!

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~SiLeNt PeN

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Love or Infatuation ❤️

Love and infatuation are both intense emotions that one feels for another person. Infatuation is often misinterpreted as Love. But the two feelings differ in their actuality of love, intensity and final outcome.

Infatuation –
Infatuation is basically an affection or deep admiration over someone’s appearance or characteristics or sometimes both. An example of infatuation is crush – it can be one sided. The image in person’s mind can be quite different than the true picture.

Infatuation is temporary in life and goes off after some period. It is reckless commitment to satisfy one’s all consuming lust. It takes off fast and furious like a spark in dry grass, burns out quickly and can leave feelings of emptiness. Infatuation is delusional, not real.

LOVE vs. Infatuation
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Love – ❤️
Love, on the other hand, is the most powerful emotion known by humankind. It is mutual, extreme feeling build on the foundation of trust where you are wiling to do anything for the person you love, no matter how painful.

Love is a gradual process and happens over time. It is unconditional and real. Love is faithfulness, loyalty, confidence, willingness to make sacrifices for another. Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person’s opinion a chance. Requires a lot of selflessness. It will deepen with the passage of time.

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So there is no such thing as “Love at first sight”. With passing time you will get to know weather it is love, lust or just Infatuation. Self love is the best way to attract true love. Love yourself with all your heart, for who you are and for who you are not. If you don’t have love for yourself, you can’t expect to get it from someone else. True love allows you to be yourself and never ask you to change. True love is not about finding your completeness in another person but rather about sharing your completeness with them fully in order to grow and expand more and more each day.

Do share your thoughts about Love vs. Infatuation!

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~SiLeNt PeN

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Verse – Madness & Soul

I want to know about the madness of soul,
The aching of heart for whom we have lost.
The wandering of heart & mourning of deepest desires,
For the future we always wished to aspire.

I want to know what is beneath the mind,
How someone can lost behind the eyes.
The curiosity to know how the mad sees the world,
How the intellect becomes sane after his soul burn.

I want to know how to control the emotions,
How the world of hoping people runs out of devotion.
To know the limit of enduring heart and limitless mind,
To loose this race of soul I am okay! I am fine!

I want to learn about all the heartbreaks,
Finding an alternate to fix is the target.
I want to facilitate someone's life,
Assuring them of someone they belong will surely find.

I want to learn the things which Science can't prove,
The equations of Mathematics which were easily understood.
Following the Law and Physics of Life,
I wish to Master the Principle of Common Sense and Mind!

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~SiLeNt PeN

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Just a thought ✨

Every person needs to take one day away. A day in which one consciously separates the past from the future.

Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any one of us, and if our egos permit us to confess, they could exist eternally in our absence.

Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for.

~SiLeNt ThOuGhT

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Vivid emotions💬

Things they don’t tell you when you move cities and leave your home:

It’s hard to keep up with people and even harder to keep up with people you left behind.

Conversations change. There’s small talk, a lot of it and you will do more of it even though it’s the one thing you hate the most in the world. You probably took all the people you had for granted and thought things were pretty steady and permanent.

The culture, the facilities and the language of the place you move determines how you’ll communicate. On one hand, maybe they’re friendlier, on the other you don’t find yourself really talking. Phone calls back home increase in number and your best friend wonders if you’re sane.

You can live with strangers and not know each other.

Sometimes, at 2 AM, you wish that maybe, instead of calling your best friend to tell them about how your boss sucks, you’d rather tell him/her, but something tells you he/she doesn’t want to hear it, or cares. This isn’t college. You’re on your own and you are your own team and that isn’t necessarily sad. It just means that everyone is fighting a battle of their own like you are and finding people, who might prioritize you in the midst of that, will take time.

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Doing your laundry on the weekends is more important than going clubbing. You probably don’t have the money anyway. Or people to go with. Yet. Let’s not forget all the food you’ll burn while you learn cooking.

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You start to find happiness in the small things.

When someone asks you if you’re okay or gets you a cup of coffee when you need it the most, it makes your heart flutter and the kindness can seem overwhelming. You constantly believe you’re alone and in moments like these you’re a part of something bigger than yourself. You start to see the poor and the abandoned and there’s a feeling of relief that you really do have so much going for you, more than you thought. You become kinder and understand how much more the world needs it, need you, even.

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You don’t have as much time as you think.

You forget on a few days that as you grow old, so do your parents. Weirdly enough, for a kid that spent so much time in her room at home, you’ll call them whenever you can. Saying good night matters. Checking up on them to see if their health is alright becomes imperative. In the end, maybe we do become our parents after all. For all the times we thought we’d never make the same decisions they would, you start to understand them and your roots too.

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Tough times don’t last, but tough people do.

You will become someone who says– “Got work now. Will talk to you later”. And sometimes later might mean, on the weekends and sometimes in months. Making time for people won’t be as easy as it used to be. There will be nights when the work isn’t done and all you want to do is sleep and listening to another’s problem isn’t something you’re up for. Life will filter people out before you and while it’ll hurt at first, weren’t you always better off being around those who understand you and know why you work so hard? Some bonds defy time and places and they will stay.

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No matter where you go, you pick your people, no questions asked. Some people are worth leaving behind everything behind for.

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Take care of yourself.

All that work and money will not matter if you’re not okay. Eating Maggi all week won’t really do your body any good when you’re 30. Mental health counts just the same. Solve issues in real time before it’s too much one morning. Exercise. Socialize. Do self-care. If you had to name the top five things on your priority list, how long would it take before you named yourself?

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Don’t judge a book by its cover.

I guess the cute guy/girl opposite your desk at work can smile after all.😉✌️

So, Go with the flow!🙂

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Being Different 🖖

It is okay to be different. A lot of us are. And there are a lot of things written and spoken for people who are different, who are unique.

But something that isn’t so often said, is that it is okay to be the same as everyone else too. It’s okay to be doing something that is common, that isn’t something different.

You don’t have to stand out just because you’re told to; just because you’re forced to.

It’s okay to work at a 9:00 to 5:00 job, slamming away at the keyboard. Monotonous. But you know what responsibilities wait for you back home. And maybe those responsibilities demand that you stay monotonous for a while.

It’s okay to be the same as everyone. It’s okay not to be a yellow umbrella among all the black ones. It’s okay to blend in with other.

It’s okay. As long as you’re fine with it, it’s okay!

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TAKE THE GARBAGE OUT⚠️

TAKE THE GARBAGE OUT

So many people will offend you, you will be bruised and trampled by people whether intentionally or not…
The experience would be devastating.

It is your choice to dwell in the pain or cut your loses and move on in life.

you need to know this…

Every trash in your house requires you to take either of these actions

1. endure the offensive odour
2. take the trash out

You decide!!!

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Manuscript found in Accra, Paulo Coelho

The people who really help others are not trying to be useful, but are simply leading a useful life. They rarely give advice, but serve as an example. Do one thing: live the life you always wanted to live. Avoid criticising others and concentrate on fulfilling your dreams. This may not seem very important to you, but God, who sees all, knows that the example you give is helping Him to improve the world. And each day, He will bestow more blessings upon it.

Manuscript found in Accra, Paulo Coelho